Rhea and Rohan were good friends. They were friends for over 2 years now. Rhea never suspected Rohan had any romantic interest in her. She never even thought of him in that way. And then something shocked her. Somebody joked about how they looked like a couple and later Rohan admitted and said ”I have given it a lot of thought and really want the relationship to go further.”
Now here Rhea was in a twist. She was actually interested in Bharat and not Rohan. Bharat has even been showing interest and their relation showed a lot of promise. She had just no feelings or romantic inclinations for Rohan; he was just a very good friend.A friend to talk to, share ideas, debate and fix the world with.
How can she tell him she is not interested in him?
I guess most of us girls have gone through this most of the times, never realising what might have caused it!!
Here are some ideas on how you can do this. Formulated with 100% GT*
1. Do not make a knee jerk response. Tell the person you can’t give an immediate response, but you will get back to them with a week/month (or a specified amount of time). Give yourself some space to think it through (Who know’s he might suddenly become rich or becomes as famous as Mark Zuckerberg
)2. Apart from mulling it around in your head, talk to not only your friends but also parents or another trusted mature/older person. They can sometimes help to see aspects the issue that you have not considered (trust me they sometimes comeup with better excuses to say a NO or know some hidden truth like ancestral property n al
)3. Be clear in your mind about your feelings and intentions. You may think that you are not interested but does this person have qualities that would make a good husband, father, provider, protector and companion. Do not confuse feelings/chemistry with what makes good and lasting relationships ( dun be a sucker for looks/money, this guy might actually turn out like Akshay Kumar of Dhadkan
)4. Once you have come to a conclusion, decide on a time and place to talk to the person (never chose a public place to start with and neva wash dirty linen in public
)5. Thank the person for showing interest in you. Let them know that it makes you feel valued, however you do not feel the same way or that you have other interests (alrite!! thank him enough for finding U interesting
)6. The person will always want to know why. Explain that life do not always create a situation that everyone has the same and reciprocal interest. And this is one of the cases (Emotional blackmailing of sorts
)7. What happens if the person continues to harass and push? Explain that you do not appreciate it and if they continue you will have to cut them off. Do exactly that. Do not take their calls. Ignore them if you meet and if you have to talk to them keep the conversation to the bare minimum ( else tell them ur uncle is a Super Pandu err Super Cop!! and scare him away
)I am sure this would definitely work, but make sure you dont hurt the other person in this process, afterall he tried his luck at the most beautiful creation of Bappa!!!!
*GT = Girl Talk
